Hi Reader,

My husband and I were invited to a 90s-themed party.

Now, my husband really hates dressing up.

Properly hates it.

Fancy dress is just not his thing at all.

The idea of “come as something from the 90s” was so vague and broad that it immediately felt overwhelming to him.

So I did a bit of research and looked up some 90s icon couples.

After a bit of scrolling, I landed on The Matrix. Neo and Trinity.

That, surprisingly, did appeal to him.

The costumes are mostly black, simple, and recognisable.

Once we’d decided and committed, everything became much easier.

We gathered what we already had from our wardrobes, hired a priest coat from Ricky Players wardrobe, added some belts and sunglasses, and that was that.

When the choice is clear, everything else follows

We were a hit at the party.

It was immediately obvious who we were.

My husband hasn’t even watched the film (one of my favourites), but he came home feeling really good about the choice.

I’ll admit, I felt a little bit naked in my yoga leggings and fitted black long-sleeve top.

I didn’t take my leather jacket off all night (I got sooo hot!).

But still, it worked.

What really struck me was how different it felt compared to the “cheap and cheerful” route.

We didn’t buy anything flimsy or one-time-use from Amazon.

In fact, at the party there were two costumes that had to be stapled back together because seams had split.

Sewing clarity

On the way home, it got me thinking about sewing.

“Fancy dress, 90s theme” is a bit like saying, “I want to sew.”

It’s so broad that it’s hard to know where to start.

What do you actually want to make?

A dress? A top? Something fitted? Something relaxed?

Until you decide and commit, everything feels vague and slightly paralysing.

But once you do decide, things tend to fall into place.

You realise you already have more than you thought.

The next steps become clearer.

You stop second-guessing every decision because you know what you’re aiming for.

Where this shows up in real life

This came up again in today’s Sew Bee Yourself session.

Several people weren’t lacking skills or motivation.

They just needed clarity about this garment, this decision, this next step.

That’s also why I’ve taken the time to properly articulate one of my offers that’s been quietly sitting in the background for a while.

It’s called Sewing Table SOS.

It’s private, one-to-one support focused on a single project.

You work on what’s actually on your sewing table and get calm, practical guidance through messages, photos, short videos and voice notes while you sew.

No courses.

No group calls.

Just help to move something forward and get it finished.

If that sounds like exactly what you’ve been wishing for, you can read more about it here: 👉 Sewing Table SOS​

And if you didn’t get a chance to reply to last week’s poll about where you're at in your sewing journey and what you need to take you forward, you’re very welcome to reply to this email instead. I’m still listening.

Or, CLICK HERE and let me know. It takes under a minute.

Vee x

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